I am dedicated to changing how mature singles perceive dating and discovering companionship.
Being a single aged 59(currently dating, but more about that later). I understand that we mature singles carry a wealth of history and life experiences that have shaped us into who we are today. Our personalities are well-defined and unique.
This uniqueness reflects the wisdom and insights we’ve acquired through our varied life journeys. That said, as mature individuals, we often find ourselves firmly set in our ways!
Years of experience have led us to develop routines, preferences, and a clear sense of what resonates with us.
While this can make us more discerning when it comes to companionship, it’s also a reminder of the importance of finding someone who appreciates and complements the unique paths we have taken in our life to date.
I am a firm believer that age is just a number and we need to live life to the fullest, believing that we are all in with a chance of finding our meaningful connection, whether that be a friend, companion, partner, lover, husband, wife……
But, before any of us embark on this journey – some work needs to be done. I know that this sounds very cliched but, it is important to realise that if you take the time to do the thinking, working out and planning, then you are in with a better chance of being successful in your dating approach, attracting the right people to suit your needs and wants. Otherwise, you can rush straight in with all the ideas that you had about what you wanted in your life 20, 30 or 40 years ago and make mistakes for as long as you want to. Also, you are not taking the time to reflect on who you are now, how you have evolved over the years and so much more.
Like anything, the secret is in the preparation.
In many aspects of our lives, we understand the significance of preparation. Whether it’s planning a trip, pursuing a new career, or even organising a special event, we recognise that taking the time to prepare leads to better outcomes.
Shouldn’t the same principle apply to our personal lives, especially when it comes to dating?
Taking a little time to understand yourself and your desires before starting to date.
Understanding ourselves in this way helps us find compatible partners and creates an authentic and satisfying dating experience.
Now, I am going to talk about my dating and where I am at the moment.
For those of you who are new to my website, let me quickly catch you up on this story:
In 2007, at the age of 43, I became single with three children
I enthusiastically ventured into online dating, amazed by the number of wonderful people just a click away!
I met someone from Hampshire and for four years he commuted on weekends. Eventually, I moved to be with him in 2013.
I stayed in that relationship until January 2018, but it became clear that it was built on the wrong foundations. I hadn’t taken the time to understand myself and my desires. I tried hard to make it work for the sake of not having another failed relationship, but I eventually moved out.
In June 2018, during a fun evening with my friends, they created a dating profile for me on a site for singles over 50. Despite encountering disappointment, superficiality, and even scammers, I realised I was content in my own world. I questioned why I was seeking a relationship online when I actually didn’t want one.
All this led to me doing the self-discovery work to find out what I really wanted, and what would ultimately bring me happiness:
Fast forward, some years, and here I am:
an accredited matchmaker
an elected member of the Council of the Association of British Introduction Agencies
the UK’s top mentor in dating for singles over 50
founder of Select Connections, a premier dating agency for singles over 50
a blogger on the trials and tribulations of mid-life dating.
I am now the happiest I can ever remember in my ‘grown-up’ life.
Let me explain: I have undergone significant personal growth since my younger days in the 80s, prior to marriage. I have reached the point where I don’t seek a constant 24/7 presence of a long-term partner.
In retrospect, I should have done this work when I was in my 40s.
I actually love my own company. I have two cockapoo dogs and they are all the full-time company I need. I have now come to realise, I’m in a unique space – I desire companionship but not a strict, committed schedule.
Believe me, this is quite rare in my demographic. Most singles in their late 50s, 60s and 70s tend to desire constant companionship and commitment.
Recently, I’ve connected with someone whose busy life mirrors my own. It works well for both of us that we can’t commit to specific times like Wednesday night or every other weekend. However, when we are together, we are going to nice places, eat out, theatre and enjoying each other’s company.
Our relationship does not involve anyone else, and while we really enjoy our time together, we also value our busy work lives and the need for personal time with our families or alone. with our families or alone.
Now that I have explained all of the above, I am very excited to let you all know that within the next two months, I will be launching a full suite of videos, resources, courses, 1-1 mentoring, and a dating package that will be affordable and available for most singles who are truly looking for a like-minded partner.
There will be practical advice on everything to do with this unpredictable journey:
The emphasis will be on – getting the work done before jumping into dating.
Next week: We will publish the list of the extensive range of subjects we will cover, how we will cover them and how can access them.
Meanwhile, if you are interested in this exciting new concept, or have any questions, then email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or join our Facebook group Club Select - UK Wide Elite Membership Group for Singles Over 50 years old
I am looking forward to providing all of you fabulous singles over 50 with any little tip or piece of advice that will help you find that special someone.😍
Tune in next week.
Until then, look after yourselves.
Jacqui B x