Well, here we are, 3rd December 2023 – HOW ON EARTH DID WE GET HERE AND WHERE DID THE TIME GO?? I think as I get older the years go quicker. Does anyone else feel the same?
Many of you reading this blog will be in your 50s, early & late 60s – 70s and beyond, thinking I am a young person in an old person’s body. We now realise that we should have been more interested in older people when we were younger. Anyway, I have gone off track…….my speciality is not staying on topic! 🤦♀️
Loneliness during the Christmas Season is a silent struggle that many older individuals face, impacting their well-being and quality of life. Acknowledging these emotions is crucial, and the statistics are alarming.
According to AGE UK, 1.4 million older people in the UK often feel lonely, a number expected to rise to 2 million by 2026 if we don't address this issue.
It's a complex emotion, unique to each individual, and often those experiencing it don't openly admit to it, fearing vulnerability and a sense of failure.
But fear not, especially during the upcoming Christmas season. For those facing the prospect of spending the day alone, here's a reassuring thought – it's just ONE day. Let's turn the narrative around and focus on the positives.
A good day to relax, reflect and be grateful for what we have.
Freedom from Seasonal Cheer Requirements:
Escape the overwhelming demands of seasonal festivities. Wake up, and plan the day for
yourself, with no panicking about getting up early, getting the turkey in the oven, table
set, and drinks ready - it's your day.
Personalised Entertainment:
Watch what you want, when you want, without compromise. The remote control is all
yours and you can surf the channels until your heart's content.
Avoid Family Dramas:
Sidestep, potential family dramas and awkward debates. No arguing about who is doing
the washing up, what time to open the presents, cheating at board games or the
neighbours drinking too much and having a ding dong!
Culinary Freedom:
Cook your favourite meal or order in, tailored to your tastes. No need to worry about
how others want their food cooked or picky guests.
Now, let's plan the day to make it truly special:
Wake up and indulge in a different, perhaps luxurious, morning routine.
Treat yourself to a lovely gift, something you've always wanted.
Take a walk, greet others spending the day alone, and feel the camaraderie.
Enjoy a delicious breakfast – perhaps with some smoked salmon and a glass of bubbly (something different from your usual toast, porridge or muesli).
Connect with a friend or family member via phone or video call.
Settle in with a good book and your favourite drink, (maybe in your pyjamas!).
Cook a decadent recipe while enjoying music or a podcast. If you don’t feel like cooking, then order in.
Dive into a festive movie or indulge in some retro box sets for a good laugh.
Remember, it's a day to spoil yourself. Before you know it, Boxing Day arrives, and the holiday hype is over.
Positive Thought: Reflect on the good things in your life, starting with your health.
Concerned about being alone on Christmas Day? Here are some resources:
Sarah Millican’s #JoinIn
Church of England’s ‘carols & chat’ event on YouTube at 3:30 pm.
Mind’s Side by Side Community – a 24/7 safe space for open conversation.
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) - https://www.thecalmzone.net/
As the year comes to a close, take this time to reflect on the past and plan for a positive 2024. Make small, positive changes and give yourself a jumpstart. For additional support resources, check out our 6-step recovery challenge.
Are you ready to embark on a journey to find lasting love?
Starting tomorrow, I'm excited to gift you a special Christmas treat - 10 days of FREE advice tailored for mature singles like you! 🎁
Join me in this immersive experience where we'll delve into tried-and-tested mentoring strategies that pave the way for successful dating experiences. Whether you're in your 50s, 60s, or 70s, this programme is designed to help you navigate the world of dating with confidence and positivity.
What to expect:
Mindset Makeover: Transform your approach to dating with a positive mindset tailored for success.
Self-Discovery: Reflect on where you are in life and define what you truly desire from a relationship.
Practical Tips: Receive easy-to-follow advice on preparing for dates and navigating the dating scene.
Dating Conversations: Craft compelling and natural dialogues to make a lasting impression.
Getting to Date 2 and 3: Navigate the transition from initial dates to building a connection over multiple encounters.
Building Lasting Relationships: Learn the keys to holding down a new and authentic relationship.
Stay tuned for your first dose of dating success tomorrow!
Wishing you all a wonderful lead-up to Christmas, don't overthink it, take it all in your stride and I look forward to seeing you all in 2024.
Warmest wishes for a warm Christmas Season and a healthy 2024.
Jacqui x
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